The Drama Triangle

Have you been struggling with relationships lately? Do you sometimes find yourself caught up in unnecessary drama? If so, the concept I’m about to share might shift your perspective. This post is for those who are interested in personal development, psychotherapy, and improving their interpersonal relationships.

As part of my psychotherapy studies and creative practice, I have been exploring how psychology, art, and creativity can help us navigate life’s transitions with greater awareness and ease.

One concept that has profoundly impacted my relationships is the Drama Triangle, developed by psychiatrist Stephen Karpman in the 1960s. This model describes three repeating roles that people unconsciously adopt during conflict:

Persecutor – blames or criticises

Rescuer – tries to fix or save others

Victim – feels powerless or wronged

The drama occurs when individuals switch between these roles mid-conversation.

Here’s a personal example: A friend once apologised for not being there for me in the past. I felt touched and took on the Rescuer role, comforting her. Moments later, she blamed me for something I had done years ago—suddenly, she became the Persecutor, and I felt like the Victim. Had I not recognised this pattern, I might have reacted defensively. Instead, I paused and said, “That was ten years ago. Let's focus on the present.”

By recognising the triangle, I was able to stop the drama in its tracks. If you find yourself repeating emotional patterns, consider trying the following:

1. Notice your role in the moment.

2. Journal or sketch the triangle.

3. Create a visual reminder of the pattern.

Can you recall a moment when you started as the Rescuer and ended up as the Victim?
I’d love to hear your thoughts below.

Until next time,  

Sharon ✨